"You homeschool, right?"
A new friend asked me this quite casually the other day.
Assuming that she was asking because she is a homeschooling proponent, I curbed my instinct to cry out, "Oh, dear GOD NO!!!"
I've always known a lot of homeschooling families because so many of them are involved with Suzuki violin. I don't think it is fair to categorize them all in one fell swoop (although I'm probably guilty of doing exactly that). I've known a couple of really great homeschooled kids. And I've known a couple of nutso ones. But like any group of people, most of them have at least something in common, or they wouldn't be a group.
Homeschool kids all have one thing in common. Homeschool moms.
I am so not a homeschool mom.
And as I talked to my new friend about her plan to try homeschooling her five-year-old, I pretty much said just that.
"I think there are probably a lot of great things about homeschooling, but I know that I couldn't handle it."
There is no way in hell I could handle it.
I think homeschool moms tend to be more "supermoms" than most others. And that is neither positive or negative. It just is.
I am so not a supermom.
The list of supermom things that I don't do could line the dog's pee place for a year!
I don't knit.
I don't quilt.
I don't cook.
I certainly don't cook organic or vegetarian.
I don't craft.
I don't like kids.
I don't like pets.
I don't laugh at children's antics.
I don't think my kids hung the moon.
I don't moon over my kids.
I don't go to swap meets.
I don't collect anything.
I don't have patience.
I don't comparison shop.
I don't even clean.
I don't do any of the things people think of when they think of good moms.
Plus, I do do a lot of things that a supermom would never do. (Like write "do do"!)
I swear (but not in front of the kids).
I write about sex and masturbation for the world to see.
I use sarcasm. With my kids.
About the only supermom-type thing that I do is insist that my kids use good manners.
So, I have to wonder, why would my new friend mistake me for a homeschool mom?
And is that a good thing or a bad thing?
I do have to admit though, that I often wish I could be more supermom. Oh, not the vegan, crafting, moony kind. But the patient kind. The kind who does "projects" and doesn't send the kids out to play so she can watch an old CSI:NY on TiVo.
I need to show my kids more love. Without getting all moony about it. Because that is just not my style.