Tuna's having a Gay Old Christmas

A picture of Tuna Mother-In-Law with a neighbor decorating the tree.
***ducks from TunaHubby***

The Gay TunaPet wishes to congratulate Lee for Guessing that Mark wrote Monday's guest post. Let me know where you are Lee...I've got a package you can unwrap. Nobody has guessed yet who wrote yesterday's guest post. This guy can be really clean!


Today's guest poster can be found haunting Tuna's link list.

How I came to give up Tuna



Now, don’t get me wrong, but I can’t do Tuna. Or any kind of fish, for that matter. I haven’t touched Tuna since about 1990. I swear, I wouldn’t know what to do with it now. I came to the conclusion that I would have to give up Tuna—and fish in general—while I was in college. It was the final step in a long process that began with giving up, egad, Beef. I just lost the taste for it around the end of my first semester; the Beef they served at college was so rare it was almost tartare, and I really didn’t like my Beef raw. (I never did much care for ham either, and lamb always tasted like a bloody knife to me, but I sometimes enjoyed a good Pork, but nevertheless, I gave all that up too.)



So it was circumstance that led to my giving up Beef, and then, to make matters worse, I had a bad run-in with Chicken. You’d think Chicken is a nice, safe choice—healthy, and so versatile—but it left me doubled over and heaving my guts in the emergency room.



Take it from me: Chicken is nothing but trouble.



So that left me with only Fish, and to be honest, there was not much about Fish that I liked anyway. It was expensive (and I was a poor college student), it was difficult to prepare, and it made the whole house just rank. The neighbors could always tell when you had Fish; the smell lingered for days.



So, I haven’t had Fish since then—but you know, if I’d thought about it at the time, I might not have given up Tuna: convenient, healthy, canned. But it’s been too long. I just couldn’t go back. What a godsend, though, that I can now get my Tuna online: full of wit, and no lingering odor.

Tuna Girl is on Jerry Springer

The Gay TunaPet here. TunaGirl is currently out of town and does not know this, but I am taking her on the Jerry Springer show! I'm going to surprise her by saying that the Tunapet and the TunaHubby are having an affair. Although it isn't true...yet (hey...I like men who know how to handle their pistol!) I figure I'll get to see the big fish sooner than we would originally have planned. Like all those other guests on Springer are totally honest!

Today's Guest Blogger:

Today's guest blogger is a clean city boy:

Tuna: She loves a man in uniform, and really, what more do you need to know?

Who wrote it?

Tuna Menace!

What's better than an original movie, but a tuna sequel? Guest Tuna Blogging, the Tunapet Menace! Since TunaGirl is off visiting her family, and very busy, she's asked for a little guest blogging. Now before you think that she is having a great time, she actually asked that I trade lives with her. She will work my last two weeks at my job and I'll get to play with the Tuna Husband and Tuna Kids while visiting the Tuna Inlaws. Hmmm...maybe not.

That being said...I'd thought it would be fun if you all were the guest bloggers and she had to figure who wrote what. So if you email me a guest posting at my address of (first come, first served...or is it the other way around?) I'll make sure to post your entry, and let her guess who posted what.

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This first guest post, comes from a blogger under her daily reads column.

Something Fishy this way comes…

Is she really the Tunaslut she tries to portray herself
as? Is she really THAT good at Tunablowjobs? Does she
really have an arsenal of Tunaleather and Tunatoys tucked
away under her Tunabed to enhance the Tunaforeplay?

Does the nickname Tunagirl really have to do with the area
of a woman’s privates that have eluded so many of her
readers? Or does she just really love tuna to the point
of an obsession and is using that as an excuse?

We love the Tunagirl with all her quirks. Her
Tunasarcasm. Her Tunaprementrualsymdrom. Her Tunawit and
charm. Her Tunatenderheart.

Will the Tunagirl one day become the Tunawoman? Her
tunachildren will grow up and swim away to Tunacollege and
her Tunaman will retire from Tuna-armed forces and they will live
happily ever after in Tunaresthomes.

But we all have to wonder, what will happen to Tunapet?

I'm sure he'll be tunaneutered.


So...who wrote this?

Bed Mates

My husband slept on the couch last night.

Would anyone like to guess why?

Did my hormones finally cause me to snap?

Did my marathon phone session with my friend piss him off?

Did we have one of those massive kind of useless flights that we haven't had in years and years?

Nope.

Our bed was piled high with at least seven loads of clean but unfolded laundry. Because in order to pack for a trip, you have to have clean clothes to pack in the first place.

At 11 p.m. he left me to my folding and went to sleep on the couch. And I, well, I procrastinated as long as I could, and at 4 a.m. I pushed the laundry onto his side of the bed and finally fell into a fitful sleep. Because that laundry, and those empty suitcases are still facing me today.

So, I'll be traveling for a while, assuming I ever pack. I don't know how often I'll be able to post, because my parents are like cruise directors. They never ever let us stop. But behave while I'm gone, hmmmm?

Oh! And by the way, to the person who Googled What does the name Tuna mean? and found my blog...

Tuna means pussy, sweetheart. Tuna is a derogatory term, often used by gay men, to refer to stanky pussy.

Any other question I can answer for you?

But then I really must go pack.

I Feel Pretty

Check me out!

Well, actually check out what Pony so graciously designed for me.

When Hot Toddy's Toaster Oven first unveiled his new Pony design I was insanely jealous. My blue and tan Blogger template worked well enough to get my words across, but I was getting a little tired of seeing the same template over and over again.

So what's a girl to do to coerce a talented man to do her work? Could she flirt? Hint? Flatter? Cajole?

Well, this girl just blatantly begged for a little Pony loving. *ahem* Not that type.

But don't take my word for it. Here's the scoop on the new design, straight from the horse's--I MEAN--pony's mouth.

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When Tuna Girl first hinted at me doing a Blogger template for her, I was a bit at a loss as to what to say, much less what to actually design. So often, as a designer, I need to sleep with the person to get a feel of their personality. Tuna Girl is very attractive but also very female and very married, so this research method was very useless.

I asked her how she started using the name "Tuna Girl". It was a boring story that I don't even remember.

I really wanted to do this for her, but hadn't any idea what to design.

Then, one day in the grocery store in the canned food section, I knocked over an entire shelf of StarKist tuna cans onto the floor. Besides creating an amazing racket and mess, I created inspiration.

Before you say it: Yes, I know that it looks more like a dolphin than a tuna. I tried to draw a tuna fish, I really did. I couldn't get it right. I left it as the dolphin because it's much cuter than a tuna and therefore more fitting given the radiant beauty of our hostess. Besides, I suppose it's darkly ironic, given that tuna nets are a dolphin's worst nightmare.

So, welcome to Tuna Girl's new look, inspired by a can of StarKist tuna.

--Ugly Pony

*****

Hmmm. Cute, radiant, beautiful, and darkly ironic? Yeah. I can live with that.

In all seriousness, Pony is an absolutely wonderful man. To have put his time, effort, and substantial talents into designing something that was just for me is above and beyond the call of friendship. And I didn't even have to sleep with him.

Thank you, Pony. You get a Tuna Girl seal of approval. MWUAH!

Christmas Letter 2004

I get quite a lot of Christmas cards each year, and many of them include an Annual Christmas Letter.

I've never done a Christmas Letter. I usually just enclose a picture of my kids in my Christmas cards. I figure all these people really need to know is that our kids are still alive and smiling. The rest is just details.

But with all that is going on this year, and all the changes I've been through, I thought it would be a good year to start a new holiday tradition.

So here's my Christmas Letter 2004. What do you guys think?

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Dear friends and family,

Happy holiday everyone! Let me start by saying that it has been a wonderful year. And if you're just getting to find out the details of our lives through this letter, well, it doesn't mean that we don't love you. It just means that we don't care enough about you to actually visit, call you on the phone, or send an occasional e-mail.

As you may know, I spent a great deal of time last year mastering my masturbation techniques. The $50 we invested in a Hitachi Magic Wand was well worth it. I suggest you go right out and buy yourself one too. The sling, though, wasn't as much of a hit. It may have helped if we hadn't installed the ceiling bolts so close to the wall, but it only took one trip to the ER in January for a concussion to realize our mistake.

The little tuna girl started Kindergarten this year. We are awfully proud that she is the only one in class who can't write her name. We think she is a very creative spirit, and being stifled with the alphabet is just too limiting for her. She also played soccer this year. She never scored a goal, but we think it was just adorable to watch her dance in the field. The rules of soccer don't stifle her. She does what she wants and is a more creative creature for it.

She took swim classes in the summer, and although the other kids learned to swim across the pool and back, we think it is wonderful that she just hung on to the edge and cried. No one will force her to do something she isn't ready for. We know that she is building a healthy fear of the water, and that makes us proud.

The little tuna boy did not start school this year, though many of his peers did. But he was still wearing diapers, and that fascist school just can't see the health benefits of having mountains of dirty diapers to change every day. We've decided it is best to let him roam free and naked in the back yard. He has the freedom to eliminate wherever he wants, and the carpets don't get dirty. This poses a problem in the winter months, but we'll just hire a nanny to deal with that when the weather gets cold enough.

Speaking of nannies, I started dropping the little tuna boy off at Mother's Day Out every morning. I just need some "me time" and I know that his spending time with other unsupervised children will prepare him for the real world.

I spend my "me time" writing on the Internet. I have a bunch of readers who think that I am this sweet, little housewife, but you, our friends and family know the truth of that. I even met a lot of these readers on a recent vacation. I had them all fooled into thinking I was 31-years-old. If they knew that I trapped Tuna Man into marriage by lying about my age, putting holes in the condoms, and having my first child at age 12, they would think it was so funny.

And as far as the Tuna Man goes, well, you know that I only married him for his money. And what money he's made for me! I'll be set for life. This year I was able to afford some plastic surgery. I went in to have my face reconstructed, but decided that it would make sense to have a breast augmentation at the same time. Pictures are enclosed.

I don't know what the Tuna Man does all day to earn that money, but he wears some fancy uniform so I think he might be a stripper at an upscale club. If you want to know more about him you'll just have to call him. Or tell him to write his own damn Christmas Letter. I just can't be bothered.

So have a wonderful holiday and a happy 2005. Remember that we love you, just not enough to contact you more than once a year.

All our love,

The Tuna Family

Not Alone

I'd really like to have something funny to say today. I'm sitting here wracking my brain, trying to think of a funny conversation or an embarrassing antidote. But I'm drawing a blank.

The truth is that I've been unaccountably sad lately.

You have no idea how hard that is for me to admit.

To me, admitting that I am sad is like admitting that I am weak. And feelings of sadness bring about tremendous feelings of guilt. What do I really have to be sad about? So many people have more of a right to be sad than me? I have everything I've ever wanted. What kind of juvenile, malcontented, spoiled brat am I?

So I take those sad feelings, and I turn them into anger. It's what I learned to do from my father. And do you know how much it kills me to admit that? Frankly, it pisses me off when I can draw comparisons between me and my father.

I've found myself in the last week being pissy with just about everyone. I'm short with the kids. I'm critical with the husband. But I found myself driving home today, with tears running down my cheeks.

I am sad.

And I can't even pinpoint why.

I'm sick of my freaking jaw. I'm sick of not being able to kiss my husband. I'm sick of not being able to eat normally. It's making me tired and frustrated.

I socialized at the squadron Christmas party and all I could think was, "These women are so superficial. I have nothing in common with them. Nobody here really knows me."

I look to my trip back home this Friday and I dread it.

This year's trip back home will feature the 25th Anniversary Party of my husband's father and step-mother. I dread attending that party with all the fiery hate burning in hell. I hate that woman. That woman who inflicted so much pain on the man I love. I hate her so much, and she's berating me to be sure to dress my husband and kids nice enough for pictures. She can burn in hell for all I care.

My closest friends live far away. I'd rather take my precious time and the money for this trip and spend it on seeing them.

And frankly, the thing I don't want to admit is bothering me at all, but is probably the main reason for my sadness is the fact that we will return from this trip, and within days my husband will leave for four months. I don't want to admit that it is making me sad.

I am supposed to be the strong one. I am supposed to be supermom, keeper of peace and bringer of love. I can't show my weakness.

My husband has already asked me, "Are you going to be alright during this deployment."

I responded with an, "Are you serious?" but I honestly wanted to punch him when he asked me that.

I'll be fine because I have to be fine. I have to be better than fine. I have to be supermom, provider of strength and giver of kisses. I can't show my weakness.

But I am sad. Unaccountably sad. And I know I'm not the only one.

Honey Do

While I was in New York, my husband did a ton of work around the house. He even tackled Mount So-Much-Laundry-It's-Mocking-Your-Efforts-to-be-a-Domestic-Goddess. It was really nice to come home to a clean house.

But he also left a Honey-Do list for me on the table. It read:

• Drop my suit off at dry cleaners
• Buy new underwear
• Change calling plan

Whoa. Wait. What?

Now I know that something like 90% of men's underwear is bought by women. (Okay, I made that up. But it's probably true.) But I can't recall a single time that I bought my husband underwear. So I asked him about it.

Me: Your list says, "Buy new underwear." You want me to buy you underwear?
Him: No. YOU need new underwear.

I guess it's time for a trip to Victoria's Secret, huh?


*****

After re-reading last night's post, I can see that I am doomed to live at least half of every month in a PMS-induced bitchy tirade.

Ugh.

Even I don't like me now.

For the record, I have a tremendous amount of respect for mothers who can raise a handful of kids to be nice people and good citizens. It's just that none of these mothers seem to live near me.

***Warning. I'm not fit for human interaction.***

Today, while sitting in the gym bleachers for my daughter's Christmas dance recital, my husband and I had this whispered conversation over my son's head.

Me: I am turning into my father. I hate people.
Him: Just remember that you said that and not me.
Me: Or maybe it's just Southern people.
Him: Honey, it's all people.
Me: Or maybe it's just parents.
Him: You're a parent.
Me: Yes. I am quite aware of that.

I think we're good parents.

But after this weekend, my faith in the future of this world is severely shaken.

***Warning. Snotty parenting opinions ahead.***

My weekend started out with music class graduation. My daughter was sick, so she and Daddy stayed home while my son and I braved the melee.

Why do Southern mother's dress their little boys in pastel blue, embroidered jump suits? You'd think a culture so afraid of gay people that they erect huge billboards denouncing them would dress their sons a little more butch.

Our music teacher has a very soft place in her heart for my son. And I must say ***proud mom moment*** he is absolutely in his element at music class.

But what amazes me most is his ability to block out the siblings choking each other in the corner, the kid banging his head against the door until he falls over, and the sugared-up brats running in circles enough that he can be the only child to actually follow along with the teacher.

Ooh. I also think he is going to be a male model. When it was his turn for his graduation picture, he ran right in front of the camera and struck a cheese pose. We're going to be in big trouble when this kid hits high school.

That Saturday night, we had my husband's squadron Christmas party. It was held in a casino at the race track. It's all class for us, people.

Actually, the room was quite nice.

My husband was in charge of planning the party and was the MC for the night. I know it stressed him out to have to do all that extra work and to try and keep a lot of higher ranking people happy. But it stressed me out even more.

Yes. He did ask me to do a lot of last-minute stuff for him. But he was also very appreciative. While I was greeting guests with him, he kept telling me that I'd make an awesome commander's wife someday.

Well, hell Baby. I know that. Now let's make sure you get to be a commander, huh? Next time I tell you to make sure the food is ready, go make sure the food is ready!

His commander and his commander's wife were both very happy with the party, and most of the DVs had very good things to say. So it's all good.

***Warning. Personal sappy moment ahead!***

Truly though, you did great, Honey. And I'd be proud to stand by your side when you command your own squadron. Or group. Or, hell, wing for that matter. I love you and I'm proud of you.

***Whew. Okay. Moving on.***

And then, today continued our weekend of parental fun with my daughter's dance recital. I can't even explain to you the chaos that results from a gymnasium full of ignored children. It's just too traumatic for words.

But does anyone remember my diatribe against people who have too many kids?

There was this one woman there, with her six (yes I said six) spastic children. Five boys, and one little girl. And you know what? She was pregnant.

Which caused my husband and I to have this mean-spirited exchange:

***Warning. You'll think less of me when you read this!***

Me: She's like a walking stereotype.
Him: For Catholic motherhood?
Me: No. For, "We can't afford birth control here in the trailer park."

Okay. You all hate me now. Which is okay. Now that we have three (yes I said three) giant, inflatable Christmas figures in our front yard, we're one step away from the trailer park ourselves.

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Housekeeping note: (and if you're still reading after all that crap, you deserve some sort of prize)

Check me out! I got all ambitious and planned to e-mail responses to all of my comments from the last week. But it was just a lot easier to go back and post comments in response to yours.

By the way, I probably don't say it enough, but thanks for reading and thanks for commenting. You guys have really enriched my blog with all of your humor, insights, kind words, and sharing.

Missing: One Tuna Man

RB (my husband's boss and husband of CB, my best friend and next-door-neighbor) called me early this morning. Apparently, they are surprising my husband with some big award at work today. They even got a big muckity-muck to present it to him.

Except they can't find him anywhere.

I have no clue where he is.

I tried to call his cell phone but it went straight to voicemail. I left him a message and even text messaged him to call home. But I haven't heard from him yet.

Throughout the day, I have been getting calls from higher and higher ranking people looking for him. This cannot be good.

He's under a ton of work stress now as it is. He doesn't need to be known as the office phantom.

So if you happen to see my man out there looking lost, point him toward home, would ya? Or at least force him to call his office.

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Update: Found him. He called at 3:30 to let me know he'd be home late tonight. My best guess is that he's doing some Mandatory Fun (AKA Heavy drinking with the bosses) at the O Club.

Tuna Girl Embarrasses the Guys

I slept like the dead Saturday night, only to be awakened at 7:30 a.m. by my damn internal/maternal clock. I tried to go back to sleep, but apparently the couple in the room next to mine were morning people, because the thump, thump, thumping kept me awake. At least they had more rhythm than the newlyweds on my cruise.

What is it with me getting rooms next to horny people? And what is it with morning sex? That's the last thing I'd want to do first thing in the morning.

So I took another orgasmic shower (Herbal Essences included) and just hung out and relaxed. Until my stomach started demanding attention.

I called Patrick to hurry him up and he called MAK and we all met at my hotel. Patrick was nice enough to carry my bag down the stairs, since the elevator wasn't working.

I went up to the desk to check out, and the woman there directed me to a gentlemen who would check my bag and get me a car for later. I stepped over to the man and Patrick was standing a few feet behind me. But this guy never even made eye contact with me. Even though I did all the talking and was holding the bag, he directed all of his questions to Patrick and even handed him my receipts. After the guy walked away I turned to Patrick and said, "That's what it is like to be a woman. I've been treated like that my whole life."

Can I get an "amen" from the ladies? When I'm alone or with other female friends, everything is fine, but throw just one man in the mix and we might as well be invisible.

So Patrick, MAK, and I took off in search of brunch. And then we braved the crowds to walk down to Macy's. I wanted to see the famous Christmas decorations there, but I wasn't really very impressed. We subwayed back up and walked through Times Square again to try and find some little trinkets for my kids.

I happened to look into a shop window and see a purple hair bow that I knew my daughter would love. I glanced up and noticed that it was a Clare's, and I asked the guys to stop.

You should have seen the looks on their faces. Tee hee. I hadn't really realized that the place was completely full of tiaras and feather boas. But they bravely entered the store with me and stood near the door with their hands in their pockets. They couldn't have looked more out of place if they tried. So much for their big talk about playing Pretty, Pretty Princess.

After enjoying coffee together and buying my son a snowglobe, we headed back to the hotel to meet my car.

I stood on the sidewalk and hugged those guys and I just didn't want to leave. As much as I wanted to get home to my husband and kids (so much so that I turned down a $400 bump) I just wanted one more day to spend with my new friends.

It was a whirlwind weekend. One that included conversations about everything from fisting and blood-red pee, to surrogate motherhood and sign language.

I suppose whenever you get that many people together there is going to be some drama. But I was completely immune to that, probably just by virtue of being both female and straight.

I have two regrets though. One is that I didn't get to spend more time with some people. And the other is that...well...some people said some amazingly sweet things to me (one certain someone in particular), and I didn't really respond. Now I'm thinking of all the things I should have said.

But, hell. I have a blog. I can say whatever I want here. Right?

So...I love you guys. Thank you for making my rare weekend away from my kids, and my last weekend of freedom before my husband's deployment so much fun. Thank you for being you.

Tuna Girl Drinks Like a Fish

First things first. I know how you are. Patrick has some more pictures up.

Between MAK, Aaron, and Patrick (if you like a little tongue in your cheek) you probably all know how I spent my day Saturday. But let me put my unique, girly spin on it, huh?

If you're going to visit a tourist-filled city for the first time, it is best to do it with a couple of locals. between MAK and Aaron I never felt lost (or hungry). I never actually knew where I was relative to anything else, but I could just follow along like a little baby duck after her mamma. Quack, quack.

I woke up pretty early on Saturday and took the longest shower of my life. Showers are something you all probably take for granted. But not me. There are days I never even get near my shower. To be able to stand in that spray with no responsibilities was heavenly.

MAK and Patrick fetched me from my hotel and we headed off to brunch and my first NYC subway ride. Which was the same as every Boston T ride I've ever taken. We walked about for a while and took some pictures. If I broke out my camera every time one of those guys was on the phone, I'd have a whole album filled with pictures. They're so popular.

MAK kept asking me what I wanted to see in New York, and the truth is that all I wanted to see were people. I was just enjoying soaking up the ambiance that is New York and spending time with my friends.

We ended up relaxing in this little place with the best dessert ever. Between scrambled eggs at brunch and my black and white chocolate mousse cake, I ate better in New York than I have since my surgery. And I still managed to lose two more pounds. Jealous?

We headed back to catch Avenue Q where I learned that anyone could have used my name to pick up our tickets. You'd think they'd check your identification.

Apart from meeting everyone, Avenue Q was the highlight of my trip. It was just too brilliant to explain. I told my husband that we're going to have to leave the kids with my parents and drive down to NYC to see it before the original cast moves on. By the time we left the theater, my cheeks were bleeding from laughing so much. It was fun to hear Patrick and MAK laugh like that too.

We did more tourist stuff then, and took more pictures. The guys got even more phone calls and this time The Executive and Hot Toddy were looking to meet up for pre-drinking drinks. As we were walking toward the bar we happened to see Toddy in a coffee shop window. Well, the guys spotted him. I was completely oblivious. Toddy can be hard to spot, what with being so diminutive and wearing a shirt with his blog name on it and all.

At the bar, MAK bought me another raspberry stoli and ginger ale. But I think they may have slipped some actual alcohol into this one because I had to chug water after just one sip. Open wounds in my mouth, plus potent alcohol, equals fiery pain. I need to stick to my girly drinks. So someone bought me some Evian.

I'm glad I was sober though, because I met a few more people, including Jess and Marc. At least they got to see what I was really like before the giggling started.

By this point I was starving. MAK, poor sleepy baby, headed back home for some rest and Aaron took over Tuna babysitting duties.

Patrick, Aaron and I walked over to a noodle shop. Their entrees were immense, and I enjoyed some egg drop soup. We hung out there for a while just talking and getting to know one another. Of course, eating out with me means a forced leisurely pace no matter what. But getting to know those guys like that was truly a gift.

We decided to walk back through Times Square for some photo ops and a quick stop at my hotel to pee before heading to Therapy.

And what can I say about that. Well, first let me start by saying that it was so fun to meet everyone. I think I managed to at least say hello to everyone. Someone needs to make a comprehensive list of who was there. I think I remember everyone but I don't want to leave anyone out.

Second, let me say that we're all a bunch of freaks. But in a good way. Someone would be introduced and the first question asked of them was, "Who are you?" or "What's your blog?" We're a unique breed I tell you.

Patrick later told me that he was proud that I got drunk. But I wouldn't say I was drunk. I wasn't sober either, but I wasn't weaving around making bad decisions drunk.

So, lastly, let me say that I swear I am not normally that giggly.

If you look at the pictures from this weekend, you can see how I am steadily getting more and more tired. We packed a lot into just a couple of days and I was wiped out.

Aaron and Patrick walked me back to my hotel. Or, well, Aaron and I walked Patrick back to my hotel. I had flash backs of college when I was always the most sober and would walk the cadets back to their rooms. At least I didn't have to pick Patrick up off the ground or peel him out of a snow bank. Actually, he was just really friendly. Really friendly.

Okay, so he may have accosted the tourists in the elevator. As the tourists and I (me and my two male escorts) were all getting off at the same floor, the English woman called out, "Have a fun night. I hope your room isn't near ours. Don't be too loud!" I'm sure I have quite the reputation at that hotel.

After doing my mom-thing and making sure everyone had a safe place to sleep that night, I pretty much passed out.

I have a couple more stories about the brief time I spent with the guys in the morning. But they'll keep one more day.

And then I'll be done with talking about the New York stuff. I promise.

The truth is that I'm feeling pretty down and my New York story is at least keeping you from having to read my hormone-driven angst.

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More tomorrow...

Tuna Girl Meets the Bloggers

I've felt a little shy about blogging these past couple of days. I met so many people who read my blog. And really. Now that you know me, do you really want to hear about the amazing sex I had last night?

But as is typical of me, I'm just going to say "fuck it" and blog away.

And now I'm sitting here staring at my monitor trying to think of something to say. Not about my sex life, mind you. We've been over that plenty of times before. (I'll just say that my jaw is killing me and let you draw your own conclusions.) But about all these blogger folks I met in New York. I'm not sure if I have anything to add that hasn't been written already.

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Hot Toddy asked me before I left if I was nervous or excited. Although I had been nervous when I first booked the tickets, in the few days before I left, I was really just excited.

On Friday, I flew to New York via Houston and the George Bush International Airport, which I got to spend some time in since my flight was delayed. Which sucked. My time in New York was short as it was.

But I did get to talk to Aaron on the phone while I waited. I had to ask Patrick, "Who was that?" but I had guessed that it was Aaron. I couldn't wait to meet him.

I got into NYC just after 7:15. I was still feeling just excited, until I was in the jet way. Suddenly, my heart started to race. I don't think I can put a name on the emotion. Maybe nerves, excitement, fear, more excitement.

Patrick was nice enough to come fetch me at the airport. In fact, I think that was part of the agreement when he ordered me to go to New York. (I can't tell you how much I appreciate that, honey.) He had threatened to wear leather chaps and just stand in the airport screaming, "Fishy!" (you think I'm kidding?), but he was actually just standing there looking quite adorable.
In fact, that was my first thought. Cute!

I broke into a cheek-splitting grin and hurried over to get my first of many hugs. I wonder what he thinks of my first reaction. Because to tell you the truth, there was an alarming part of me that just wanted to stand there and hug and cry, so I sort of quickly started chatting and moving toward the cabs. I'm from New England. We don't show emotion in public.

Once we were in the cab and on the way to the hotel, we were talking just like we do on the phone and it was like I had known this special guy my entire life.

Speaking of special guys, MAK called while we were in the cab. He didn't sound anything like I expected. (ummm...HOT!)

We got to the hotel and checked in. The clerk obviously assumed we were a couple and even gave Patrick a key to the room.

I dropped my bags and we were off to Posh to meet up with the local bloggers (Aaron, Michael, Crash, and Rob) along with The Executive and Hot Toddy.

Those guys cracked me up. I'm not sure who I met first, but it was kind of nice that I was meeting people one at a time, as everyone was still arriving. I was easy to spot in that crowd, and I kept hearing "Toona!" and getting hugs. Except for Famous Author Rob Byrnes who actually called me by my name. And just about everyone of them said some version of the same thing. "How old are you?"

I thought my days of looking younger than my age were behind me, but apparently not. I'm sure the ponytail (I didn't want to make Patrick wait for me while I broke out the curling iron to achieve kicky hair) and braces helped to make me look younger.

So one after one I met people, and one after one I was struck by the first impression of , "Whoa! So cute." I can't explain to you how beautiful all these people were. It really struck me.

But, more importantly, the other thing that struck me was how comfortable I felt with everyone. In fact, a few people asked me if I was overwhelmed. But I never once felt like I didn't fit.

Everyone also asked me what I was drinking. And I've discussed this on the blog before. I have no clue when it comes to alcohol. I don't drink. You should have seen their jaws drop when I said that. They thought I was a lamb to the slaughter.

Patrick suggested some sweet, girly drink that I can't figure out how to spell so I won't, and that was probably a good thing, especially since I hadn't had anything but a glass of orange juice all day.

Soon MAK arrived with Steven in tow. MAK was the only one I didn't recognize right away. At the risk of embarrassing him, he is one gorgeous man.

MAK had the good sense to take me, Steven and Patrick for dinner, and later more drinks.

I had a blast. The most fun thing about that evening for me was all the boy watching. And I'm not talking about my three escorts checking out the men (although that happened too. Patrick may need a neck brace.) but all the other men watching those three. Tee hee. They seemed pretty oblivious but I got to stand back and watch all the drooling.

In fact, I told Patrick as we moved through the crowd at Barrage that he should have "Fresh Meat" written across his forehead. And, ah, Barrage, where MAK got me a raspberry stoli and ginger ale. I think he was trying to corrupt me.

Steven had to head home and MAK and Patrick walked me back to my room (such gentlemen). I had to giggle wondering what the hotel staff thought of me coming home with two men.

I had told myself that I wouldn't smile my real smile too much in New York. I'm sort of proud of myself for going to meet all these people, even though I'm still recovering from surgery. I'd like to think that means I'm not vain. But I couldn't help being somewhat self conscience. And smiling and laughing still really hurts. But I also couldn't help smiling my real smile and laughing until my cheeks bled. I just had that much fun.

So I retied my teeth together, swallowed a fistful of Motrin, watched the sex scene in the Bourne Identity on TV, and got some rest to start my adventure all over again the next day.

Saturday would see me meeting some more wonderful people and getting to know some of the ones I already love even better.

*****

More tomorrow...

Back home and...

My family has this little tradition. Every time we come home from a trip, when we pull into our driveway, we all intone, "Back home and broke."

But last night, I came home with a wallet full of money. I had to force those guys to let me pay for my own food. And it may have only been because they were trying to get me drunk enough to dance on tables, but I didn't buy myself a drink the entire time I was in New York.

I had an amazing time. An absolute blast. Everyone I met far exceeded my expectations. Everyone was nicer, sweeter, funnier, and more fun than I could have imagined. And cute too. I was just amazed at how very nice-looking everyone was. All those blogger pictures floating around on the web just don't do those guys justice.

Pictures? Pictures? Did someone say pictures? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Pictures, pictures, pictures. That's all anyone wants. I actually took very few. I was just too busy having fun and getting my picture taken like a million times.

Here are mine.

There are tons more (and better) ones out there. Start with Aaron and go from there. He has some. He has one of me that I actually like. Who else?

I'm sort of overwhelmed with blog fodder at the moment. And the hubby is home for lunch. So look for more from me later.

New Yawk, New Yawk

I'm back home, safe and sound. Much to my husband's and mother's relief and due in no small part to my friends. (Okay, so they tried to get me drunk, but it didn't work.)

Tuna Man says I have to go to bed, so I'll be quick but I'll post more soon.

I didn't take a lot of pictures in New York. I get sort of shy about whipping out my camera. (Okay. Maybe not so much when I was standing on a bar stool and being held up by bloggers to try and get a group shot, but still.)

But for tonight, before I go to bed, I just have to leave you with these images.

Before...


...and after.


I love you, Sweetie. MWUAH!

That is not NICE!

Someone did not log off her blog today!!

YES I AM AN ASSHOLE

TM

You better watch out!

Well, boys and girls, let's look back one month in the 'ole blog.

Clockwork, I tell ya. My hormones are like clockwork.

I have the overwhelming urge to use the word "fuck" in my blog today.

So here goes.

What's the first fucking thing that my fucking husband (okay...I feel bad for saying that, but it's PMS so fuck it) said to me when he came home for lunch today?

"Wow. You're really swollen."

Fuck yeah. What happens when you combine fucking rampant female hormones with recovering from fucking maxilofacial surgery? You get these fucking chipmunk cheeks and one pissy female blogger.

So maybe it's a good thing that I won't be blogging this weekend. But the boys in New York better fucking watch out. Or maybe they should just get me fucking drunk.

But I'm still fucking excited. So my mood will be swinging faster than his bedroom door for a few days.

So...fuck.

****Speaking of females...

Since I started blogging I've been looking for women like me. But I think maybe we're a rare breed and few and far between.

But in the last few months I've found these blogs. If you like me, you'll love them. (They don't say "fuck" a lot when they have PMS.)

Sour Lemon: Sweet and sexy.
Jourdan Lane: Who I want to be when I grow up. (Not that she's older than me)
Loxy Fady: A mom after my own heart.

And of course, most of you already read Pua. I think she probably comes closest to my definition of an angel. (And she loves Brendan Shanahan as much as Jeff and I do.)

I leave for New York City early tomorrow and I haven't packed a thing yet.

See you all on Monday with plenty of incriminating photos of our blogger pals.

Sex Talk

The other night, my husband and I were watching A Man Apart in bed. I told him that he looks a lot like Vin Diesel.

He really does, actually. He has the same shaped head, the same facial structure, the same lips. My guy's nose is smaller, though. And his smile is completely different. And he's only 5'8".

My husband was skeptical, at best. "You don't gasp when I take my shirt off," he told me.

Okay. He's never ever going to let me live that down. We saw XXX in the theater. There is one scene in the movie where ole Vin gets out of bed to answer the phone and he's near-naked. And I let out a very audible gasp.

Well, can you blame me? There's something about that place on a man's body between his naval and his goods that is so enticing (almost as much as the nape of the neck). And Vin has a great one.

Have you ever played that game with your mate where you list the five celebrities that you'd be allowed to sleep with?

For the record, even if Brad Pitt was performing my own personal striptease AND his name was on my list, I'd still send him back to his wife. Yes. I love my guy that much.

But I'd have to say that, hypothetically, if I ever had a list like that, Vin would be at the top of it. Can you imagine how rough yet gentle he could be in bed? And that voice! Mmmmm. I better move along.

Wanna know who else would be on the list?

We were watching television on Monday night and talking about varying degrees of hotness. And I asked my husband, "Do you know who I would do in a heartbeat?"

He's been a little jealous lately thanks to someone leaving messages about blow jobs on my cell phone, so he gave me one of his furrowed brow, military officer looks.

I ignored it and told him, "Emily Procter. Don't you think she's hot?"

"She's fucking hot," was his reply.

Yes, I'd totally switch teams for Ms. Procter. I have no idea what that woman is like in real life, but her character on CSI:Miami is the perfect combination of hot, smart, sexy, loyal. I could go on and on.

It's amazing how quickly I can make my husband's brow unfurrow.

As for the three other spots on my list...I'm currently taking applications. Do hockey players count as celebrities?

A Gaggle of Gay Bloggers and a Housewife

For someone who promised my husband he'd "take care" of me in NYC (whatever that means), he plans on doing a lot of drinking.

Check this out for info about a blogger meet-up in NYC.

Boring Mom-type Post. Read at your own risk.

We took the kids to the local minor league hockey game last night.

My husband drove his own car so that he and my daughter could stay for public skating after the game.

As we were driving, the kids were singing Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star. And they sang one line like this:

Up above the world so high.
Like a gas ball in the sky.

What the?

Where the heck did they learn that? I mean, sure. It's scientifically correct and all, but diamonds, man. I need diamonds in my kids' songs. I'm all about the diamonds.

What the heck are they teaching at that school?

*****

When we got to the game we found out that our seats were actually in a corporate box. Our financial advisor had given us the tickets. It was a big box with maybe thirty seats, but we were the only ones there. It was nice. Very nice.

We've decided that we are box seat people living on a mezzanine income.

*****

I may have mentioned before that my son loves trains. Especially Thomas the Tank Engine.

When we were driving home tonight, just as we pulled up to the base gates we were stopped at the train crossing.

It seems like a million freight trains go by there everyday. But this was a passenger train. And a fancy one too. After about a dozen passenger cars came cars all decked out for Christmas. There were even engines painted like Thomas characters. There were reindeer in a stable car and a candy cane caboose.

My son was in two-year-old heaven. I've never seen him so excited. We had to call Grandma and Grandpa just to tell them about it.

I love unexpected things like that. They can be so magical to kids. And it is a real gift to be able to enjoy them through a kid's eyes.

I'm in such a Christmas mood this year.

Now if only our 8' tall snowman would stay inflated, I'd be all set for holiday cheer.

Last Words on my Mouth

I feel a little bad right now. A few people have found my blog lately by googling for information on jaw surgery. And here I am complaining about crapping my pants.

It's not that bad, Google people. I swear. I'm actually glad that I had it done. I still have a long way to go before I look, talk, and eat normally (like four more weeks) but I think in the long run that I am going to be really glad to have had the opportunity to have this surgery.

A few people have asked me about just how I will look and talk in New York when I meet all these new people. They're wondering how healed I am. People have even asked for pictures.

There ain't no way in hell I was going to allow photo documentation of this whole process. I barely even have any pictures of myself with braces.

But by following these Google searches, I happened upon this man's personal page. A.J. went through a surgery very similar to mine, and documented the whole thing in photographs. You know that I am a total picture slut. I love looking at people's photos. And these were of particular interest to me.

I am healing right along the same lines as A.J. The only difference so far is that he got his bite splint off after two weeks, but I'll be wearing mine for six weeks. Well, that and my bite splint isn't green. And I'd never puree spaghetti. And I'm not a 140 pound, 5'7" man, but you know. In theory it is all the same.

So anyway, to answer your questions, my cheeks (where the titanium strips are holding my jaw forward) are still pretty swollen. And my nose, and lips are still numb. But I've gone from looking like a gorilla to looking like a chipmunk, and it's all good.

Though I think I am going to dub my teeth as the "Gates of Hell". I guess you'll have to see them to know what I mean. I think I may have scared my husband off oral sex for the rest of his life.

Just kidding. Like that would ever happen.

Actually, I feel sort of bad about that. It's been since October since I've *ahem* done that to him. And there ain't no way in hell I'm doing it before he deploys in January. And then he'll be gone for four months. So that's (let me count my fingers) at least six months with no pole polishing.

Poor baby!

Okay. I'm officially sick of talking about my freaking jaw. It's boring to you. It's boring to me. And truly, I feel pretty petty complaining about my simple medical procedure while so many people have so many worse things to deal with.

Speaking of which, have you ever noticed that I always screw up the use of the words worse and worst in my blog? Dumbass.

So let's see. That means my blog topics in the near future may include Jourdan Lane and how much she rocks, how the Tuna Pest got me in trouble again, how I killed my daughter's pet worm, how I think my daughter is a fruit fly in the making, something about Wendy's that I can't remember, and how I have a crush on Steven Sabados.

Happy reading.

How am I thankful? Let me count the ways.

I had a really nice day yesterday.

You'd think that celebrating Thanksgiving when you can't eat would be a real drag, but I actually had one of the nicest Thanksgivings I can remember.

I am feeling especially thankful for things this year. I am especially thankful for the absolutely amazing sex that seems to have become a regular part of my life lately.

But that seems a little sacrilegious, doesn't it?

So I guess a close second would be my wonderful family, my precious kids, my secure and comfortable life, the excellent health of me and mine, and the gift of being able to do exactly what I want to do with my life.

But I'm thankful for those things every year.

This year I am most thankful for the many new friends in my life.

It can be hard to make friends as an adult. And that's especially true for a military wife and stay-at-home mother. But this year, as I was celebrating the holiday with my best friend and her family I was struck by the fact that CB is the closest friend I've had since Erin and Christine in college. And that surely is a gift.

But for me, the new friendships don't stop there. I am just overwhelmed by the generous hearts and beautiful souls of all the new blogger friends I have made. It is amazing. I count some of you among my very best friends. And having the opportunity to meet some of my bestest new blogger friends in New York in one week is an especially sweet gift for me.

Yeah. You know what?

Scrap all that bullshit.

I'm really just grateful for the excellent fucking.

Things I've Learned Since My Surgery

1. Did you know that your face can swell so much that your pores will stretch to their limits?
2. Did you know that when your pores stretch that much they stop working?
3. Did you know that they would then secrete oils onto your face?
4. Did you know that this will prompt your mother to ask, "Did you put some sort of cream on your face? That's good."
5. Did you know that when your upper-jaw is moved forward they actually lift your nose away from your face?
6. Did you know that this will cause your nose to bleed and run for at least a week?
7. Did you know that you would lose feeling in your nose and face?
8. Did you know that when you have no feeling in your face that you can't tell if your nose is running until it reaches your tastebuds?
9. Did you know that you would have to be on a liquid diet?
10. Did you know what a liquid diet does to your bowels?
11. Did you know that liquid bowel movements are really hard to control?
12. Did you know that every time you read Hot Toddy's Toaster Oven it will cause you to crap your pants? (Damn you.)
13. Did you know that you wouldn't be able to talk on the phone?
14. Did you know that this would make you feel really detached from your friends and loved ones?
15. Did you know that mumbling about your jaw surgery to a telemarketer will make them feel really, really bad for calling?
16. Did you know that every single time you mention your surgery to someone they will completely ignore all of the pain and suffering you've been subjected to and immediately exclaim, "You're so lucky! You'll lose so much weight!"
17. Did you know that your feelings will be a little hurt that everyone thinks you need to lose so much weight?
18. Did you know that you'll actually only lose about 10 pounds before all the milkshakes you've been drinking will start putting the pounds back on?
19. Did you know that the lack of vitamins in your diet would cause your hair to fall out?
20. Did you know that the people who love you will love even more, even though you are cranky, mute, snotty, fat, and hairless.

MWUAH!

Love you guys. Happy Thanksgiving!

Love You Guys

Yesterday, I told my friend CB that I loved her.

This is pretty out-of-character for me. Not when I'm with my husband and kids, though. With them I'm very affectionate and vocal with my love. But with friends, extended family, even my parents, I'm just not an "I love you" kind of girl.

Until now.

I don't know what it is. My mother had been full of I-love-you's lately too. Maybe it is a realization that there is so much bad stuff in this world, and I'm so lucky to be as happy and loved as I am.

Take Sebastian, for example, of Holding the Man. I only recently started reading his work on the group blog Event Horizon. But you can tell right away from Sebastian's writing that he is a very special man. I checked out Holding the Man a few times before my surgery. And then yesterday, I read the awful news.

It seems that Sebastian was run down by a car. It seems like a hate crime too. Sebastian is in a coma.

Just when I was starting to think that this particular brand of hate was a very American thing, someone has to go and in the worst possible way, show us all otherwise. Hate, ignorance, and violence are worldwide and growing (it seems). And the only way to combat that is to grow love, education, and peace worldwide too.

And I'm starting right here at home.

There is so much more. Death. Sickness. Suicide. Losing love. Losing jobs. Losing humanity.

There is even sending your love to the desert to do his duty for his country.

Everyone has a sphere of influence. Some are spread far and wide, through media or policy, or even an Internet community of faithful readers. And some are more contained to family and friends and the people we love.

And as of now, today, this very moment the people in my sphere are going to be learning a lot about how much I love them. And they'll be learning as much as I can teach about tolerance, whether it be through example ("Yes, Mom, he is my friend and he is a gay man.") or through lectures when appropriate.

Let's face it. It won't change much. But it might change a little. And my love is really the only thing I have to give.

But I think it is worth a hell of a lot.

In the Dog House

Wow! I haven't had two men fighting over me since high school. Though I'm not sure if it counts if one of the men is gay and the other already belongs to you. Oh well.

Before I went into surgery, I actually read Patrick's first two posts. So, while I was all gussied up in my hospital gown and waiting to be put under I said to my husband, "Don't read my blog for a while. I asked Patrick to guest blog...and...well...just don't read it. I think it will piss you off. Okay?"

Cut to two days later while we're waiting for the doctor to release me.

Tuna Man: I read you blog.
Me: Uh oh.
Tuna Man: Patrick is funny.
Me: You really think so. I didn't think you'd appreciate his humor.
Tuna Man: Well, it's not my type of humor, but I can see that he is funny.
*pause*
Tuna Man: And we're NOT having any poppers in our house.
Me: *laughing* I know, Honey. Did you really think I would?
Tuna Man: No, but, I don't think it's a good idea to have DRUGS in the house.

Then Patrick made a few more posts.

Tuna Man: We need to have a talk about your blog.
Me: Uh oh! What did I do? I haven't even been blogging. I didn't do anything!
Tuna Man: I know Patrick is your friend and you can say anything you want to him on the phone but I don't appreciate it showing up in your blog for the whole world to see.
(He vastly overrates my readership)
Me: Oh. *racking my brain to remember what was offensive* Um. *still racking* Oh! *remembering* Sorry. Um. I can take it off you know.
Tuna Man: You know, you can say whatever you want to your friends, I don't have to like it, but you can say it, but I really don't like it showing up there.
Me: Um. Sorry.

So the Tuna Man is a little miffed at me. Just a little though. He's used to me by now.

Tuna Pest got me in trouble, you big jerk!

But considering that my husband has said, "I hope you have fun in New York." And while watching me down cup after cup of liquid medicine he said, "I know someone who's doing shots in New York," I don't think he's too mad.

But for the record, Tuna Girl does NOT do shots. As of today, my teeth are still tied together and I'll definitely still be wearing a bite splint in NYC. If I can't drink it through a straw, I can't have it, period. And I ain't drinking no Irish Car Bombs through a straw!

Making The Case

Ladies and Gentleman of the jury (that's you Tuna readers!), I am placing my fate in your hands...well in your keyboards. You get to determine if I am guilty.

If you find me guilty, I will live by your rules and do the shot of your choice in NYC(on camera), in the presence of TunaGirl. If you find me innocent, TunaGirl will drink the shot of your choice in NYC on camera. (I'm all about the win-win solutions).

So...Ladies, gentlemen, and queens of the jury, I ask you. Am I guilty for going too far? Here are the facts of the case:

Three days before Mrs. Fish went for her surgery, she asked that I guest blog for her, which I was more than happy to do. She then announced to all of you that I would be guest blogging.

In the meantime, I've arranged for a guest blogger. Yay! I love guest bloggers. Especially when they're good friends.

Patrick has graciously agreed to inflict his brand of humor on my humble little blog. I'd try to lay some ground rules, but everyone just ignores me anyway. I'm sure Patrick will have one or two jokes to share about all the oral sex my husband won't be getting. And I can almost guarantee some mention of my rack.

Man. I may live to regret this.

As you can see from her own words, she decided to NOT LAY ANY GROUND RULES. Yes...No rules.

Now I ask you Tuna readers to find an area where I mention the the Tuna tits? In fact, I neglected to mention the Tuna rack (although it is legendary) over the entire week.

As for oral sex jokes...well I just don't find oral sex a lauging matter. Giving oral sex is a very serious work and I like working. Ask around!

So most loyal, intelligent, and fair minded TunaReaders...am I guilty?

Thank you, and I hope to see you all over in my neck of the woods at The Traveling Spotlight

Hugs from Afar

Hey guys! It's still Tuna Girl here. I haven't been able to concentrate well enough to post on the blog. But I did want you to all to know that I'm starting to feel a little more like myself again.

It has been very strange to be so disconnected from people. You don't realize how much of an important role the telephone plays in your life until you can't use it. And I haven't really even been able to e-mail much because my eyes aren't really focusing well.

CB even stopped by the other night to bring me flowers. But when I went to the door to sign "thank you" I scared her daughter. So even my best friend feels too weird to be around me right now. We're having Thanksgiving at her house though. That should be nice.

And I got one of Pua's very special hand-made scarves in the mail today. And I can't even tell you how nice that made me feel. Talk about perfect timing. (Love you, Pua! More than Rick even.)

And my orthodontist sent me a flower arrangement yesterday. I thought that was so sweet.

Now, if I could just get my family to puree some dinner for me before they rush out to a restaurant every night, I'd be all set.

I believe Patrick may have a post or two left in him. I obviously don't have anything interesting to say. Let's see if he can make a case for himself NOT getting his ass kicked in the next couple of days.

I'll be back to blogging on Monday.

I miss you guys!

Tuna's Back

Hey Guys! I'm actually semi-lucid at the moment and I thought I'd give you all a quick update.

But first things first. Yes. Patrick will be getting his ass kicked when I see him in New York. Now, moving on...

So, whenever anyone calls to check up on me, my mother or my husband tell them that I'm doing great. I look great. I feel great. My doctor has also said that I'm doing better than any patient he's ever had and that my morale is surprisingly high. He said I'm a good sport.

Yeah. Um. Not so much. I look scary. I feel in pain. And I just want to sleep. I mean, how exactly am I supposed to act.

I think this blog is very much going to be about me saying all the things I can't actually speak for a while.

Right now, my prevailing thought is that I am lucky to be as healthy, happy, and loved as I am. But a couple of nights ago, I was wishing that I had never even thought to complain about pain in my jaw.

I have to admit that I was absolutely terrified the first night after my surgery. I couldn't breathe. I was literally drowning in my own blood. But I couldn't speak or explain so no one could help me. I was so alone. I also assumed that they were giving me pain medication. But evidently, my doctor told me later, they were waiting for me to ask for it.

Hello! Ask for it? I can't fucking talk. I had to squeal like an animal to get anyone to notice that I was vomiting blood.

Never mind the fact that they kept trying to take my temperature orally. My husband yelled at them twice about it.

Wow. I actually feel a little better just getting that all out. Considering how longwinded I usually am, I'm sure you can imagine the words that are bubbling up under the surface.

So, as of right now, my jaws are not wired shut, but they are tied shut with elastics. I can only suck clear liquids through my teeth. And I am starving. You'd be amazed at what sounds good right now.

The doctor says I'm doing really well, and he's going to let me put my own elastics on and off starting next Tuesday, so that I can get a little solid food.

I think the worse thing since coming home from the hospital is taking all this liquid medication. God! It tastes awful. I will be extremely happy when I can swallow a pill again.

I can't remember if I ever mentioned before that I know a little sign language. That's come in handy, but people are cracking me up. My husband and kids keep signing to me. Um. Guys? I can actually hear you. You can speak to me.

Can you tell that I'm still on Lortab? It's not making me loopy though. Just tired.

So I'm off again, probably for a few more days. My mother extended her stay until Saturday, thank god. After that I am on my own with these kids.

I hope you've enjoyed Patrick's torturing--I MEAN--posting for me. And, Patrick, I hope you keep posting if you feel like it. Even though my husband is gonna kick your ass.

So, I love you guys. In those moments on Friday night when I considered just how long I could go without breathing before I would die, I believe that your spirit helped me keep sucking air in and out. Breath by breath. Yeah, my love for my husband and kids was forefront in my mind, but I really think that all of you pulling for me helped me through too.

Be safe.

Tuna Says: Eat Me!

Crispy Wasabi Potato Crusted Tuna

1 pound center-cut bluefin tuna
Salt
Freshly ground black pepper
1 tablespoon wasabi powder
1/4 cup water
1 large white potato, peeled
2 tablespoons olive oil
Drizzle of sesame oil
Sprigs of fresh chervil
2 ounces of caviar

Cut the tuna into 2 inch logs, 1 1/2 inches wide and 1 1/2 inches thick. Season the tuna with salt and pepper. In a small bowl, whisk the wasabi and water together to form a loose paste. Using the potato threader, cut the potato into thin curl-like pieces. Season the potatoes with salt and pepper. Divide the potato curls between the tuna logs in individual piles. Brush each piece of tuna with the wasabi mixture, coating each side of the tuna completely. Place a piece of the tuna in the center of each pile of potato curls. Wrap the potatoes entirely over each piece of tuna, tightly. In a large saute pan, heat the olive oil. When the oil is hot, pan-fry the tuna until golden brown, about 2 to 3 minutes on each side. Fry the tuna in batches. Serve the tuna on a platter with a drizzle of sesame oil, chervil and a dollop of caviar.

Tuna Update

TunaPet Here. I called the Big Fish last night, and spoke to both TunaMom (who sounds nearly identical to Tuna) and TunaHubby. The McFish Fillet is doing fine, but is still a bit swollen. She thanks you all for the happy thoughts.

A Fishy Conversation...

A big hello from the Traveling Spotlight. Seeing that TunaGirl is high as a kite on Lortab, I thought now would be a great time to give you some of the best quotes of our conversations over the phone (with some artistic liscense). So pull up a chair, sit down, and have a listen:

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Tuna: "Well I don't want to betray his confidence, but what he told me was ..."

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Tuna: "The last time TunaHubby was deployed I sent him a few 'private' photos of me. He emailed me the day he received them saying 'You're the best wife...EVER!'"

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Tuna: "Wait! You're talking with me about men in harnesses while you are doing your grocery shopping?"
Patrick: "Sweetie...I live in the gay ghetto. I could talk about the different preferred positions of butt sex and nobody would batt and eyelash!"

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Tuna: "I worry about all you boys!"

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Tuna: "Deciding who's going to top or bottom? I guess being straight has it's advantages."

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Tuna: "Think of me as the sister who will listen to all of your deeds and never judge you."
Patrick: "I slept with a married man and I know his wife."
Tuna: ***Silence***

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Tuna: "I think you and XXXXXX [protecting this blogger's identity] would make a great couple."

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Tuna: "I will say this...my husband underestimates his size."

A Sigh of Relief!

Gay TunaPet here, just back from bowling with my Friday league. After bowling a measly 110 in my first game, my phone rang. TunaHubby had called to let me know that the lady fish is FINALLY out of surgery and that the whole operation went fine. Tuna is now resting, and I (along with each of you) can breath a sigh of relief. In fact, that news, along with my two cosmopolitans, allowed me to bowl a much better second game. Thanks miss thang for sending me the goodwill, and you've got a fan base that is wishing you happy thoughts!

Before and After

TunaGirl Before




TunaGirl After




God bless modern medicine!

Any Last Words!

The Gay TunaPet is traumatized. Last night, TunaPet took the tuna kids into the living room to play a game of Pretty Pretty Princess, while TunaGirl took TunaHubby to the bedroom to do whatever it is that she does that makes him squeel like a pig. I'd like to say I could tell you, but the video recorder didn't record clearly.

I will say the noises were loud enough that I'm surprised the children aren't traumatized. Thankfully...my broadway recording of Cats was loud enough to drown them out...but those noises (which oddly sounded like the sound of screaming into a pillow) will haunt my sleep for at least a few weeks.

This morning, I asked the Big Fish how she felt before the operation today. "I can't talk very well...my jaw is really sore", was her answer as she flashed a glance at TunaHubby. Not to worry TunaGirl...He's going to be in some good "hands" with TunaPet!

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The Pop Life!

Seeing that Tuna is now singing "Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds", while the doctors realign her jaw (TunaHubby...I'm impressed), I figure I'll tell you a true story about her fishy majesty!

A few months ago, during a phone conversation, we were discussing my favorite activity. No...not shopping, cooking, or any of the sports we both like to play, but sex. Did you know Tuna is a top? Ok...that's a stretch...but she asked me very timidly..."What are poppers?"

Ahh, Tuna...so young, so innocent...so getting an education in New York City! As I look at her blogroll list, I realize that the majority of you already know what they are and in the case of Zeitzeuge, even advocate using them. For the two of you who don't know what poppers are:

This is a group of quick-acting drugs (alkyl nitrites), of which amyl nitrite, butyl nitrite and isobutyl nitrite are the most widely available. Poppers evaporate at room temperature and are inhaled through the nose and mouth. They're stimulants, but the "rush" lasts minutes, hence the name "poppers".


Poppers comes in small bottles of clear gold-coloured liquid. It is inhaled from the bottle or from a cloth soaked in it. The effects are instantaneous, but last only 2-3 minutes. Effects include:

• A burst of energy and a rushing sensation, because blood vessels open and the heart beats faster, sending the blood rushing to the brain.


• A feeling of light-headedness and dizziness may occur after the initial rush because the blood pressure is reduced.


• The muscles relax, people lose their inhibitions and may giggle uncontrollably.

But really, the only way you are going to know what Poppers are Mrs. T, is if you have a bottle of them to take home to TunaHubby. So in honor of meeting you in person for the first time in NYC, I, Patrick of the Traveling Spotlight (shameless plug), have bought you a bottle of Cleveland's finest poppers. You can take them home with you and use them with the TunaHubby. You'll make a bottom out of him yet.

Now I will say...TunaGirl knows that I have bought this for her, but she has insisted that she will not take them back on the plane with her when she leaves NYC. So I need your assistance in persuading her that she should take her poppers home. Every popper needs a good home to live in.

Rules of Petting

G'afternoon folks. Patrick here asking that you all welcome me to the Tuna family! Since TunaGirl has offered to adopt me as her pet, it is now officially TunaGirl, TunaHubby, TunaDaughter, TunaSon, and gay TunaPet!

A few rules for the Tuna Family in regards to caring for your new TunaPet:

• TunaHubby
  1. Although I am gay...I can not perform all the duties of the TunaGirl. I'm just not equipped that way. That being said...I can teach you a few things...like cooking the perfect Creme Brulee, or how to coordinate your shower curtain with your bedding!
  2. Sometimes when the TunaPet is crawling on his hands and knees, it's only to look for the contact lens he dropped
  3. If we're sleeping in bunk beds, the TunaPet can sleep in either bunk...you decide
  4. TunaPet loves cuddling while watching Brad Pitt movies. This is a good way to get your TunaPet to purr.


• TunaDaughter
  1. TunaPet would love to play "Pretty Pretty Princess" with you, but remember that TunaPet is ALWAYS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL! You may be a little princess, but I'm a queen! I outrank you.
  2. "I'd love to play a game sweetie. Let's play Cinderella! You be Cinderella and I'll be the Wicked Step-Mother! Here's a mop...go clean!"
  3. TunaPet can teach you a lot of important lessons if you let him. Such as "Make him come to you!" and "dumb and rich = good boyfriend!"
  
  
• TunaSon
  1. The reason I have never had kids? Diapers. I have no idea how to change one, so we are just going to let you run without one. Don't make on the floor!
  2. TunaPet would love to teach you a few show tunes. We'll start with the original Broadway Cast of Gypsy and work from there
  3. Pay attention: Gray Goose Orange Vodka, Cointreau, cranberry, dash of lime juice. This is what you feed TunaPet!
  4. I insist you play "Pretty Pretty Princess" with me.

If the Tuna family follows these rules, you can expect to have a very successful relationship with the TunaPet.

Today's Real Post (such as it is)

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Apparently, my pictures are worth quite a few less.

I actually never think to express myself in pictures. If I feel the need to get something out, I don't paint, draw, sculpt or capture it in any physical form. My psyche operates on words alone. Usually a whole lot of words. Strung together in dubious ways. But words, none the less.

Which is why this blog is occasionally filled with rambling prose on the state of my life.

Take today, for example.

Did I call yesterday Tuna Girl's Day of Crap? I was sadly mistaken. Because today has been far worse.

First, let's start with my orthodontist appointment. The surgeon thinks one of my bicuspids is too high. So the orthodontist used a pair of pliers to lower it. And yes, that feels just as painful as it sounds.

Then his assistant placed surgical hooks on my braces And that is much more painful then it sounds. It felt like she was removing all of my teeth at once by pulling out the wire they are attached to.

And now I have these lovely Gates of Hell razor-sharp hooks across the front of my teeth.

And I thought all the pain would be starting on Friday.

Then I went to my surgical appointment.

A word of advice to the girls. Always shave your legs for a doctors appointments, even if it is a maxilofacial surgeon.

I ended up getting a full exam and lab work. It would have been nice to know that would happen before hand. I'm glad I got over my needle phobia while I was pregnant.

Oh! And I fell asleep in the surgeon's exam room while I was waiting for him. I was dreaming and everything. When he opened the door, I jumped a mile.

Today I'm bruised, cut, swollen, and miserable. And the hard part hasn't even started yet.

AH called me a little while ago and asked me to substitute in our daughters' classroom next week. Isn't she thoughtful? She knows full well that I am having this stupid surgery. Can you just picture me, trying to control twenty five-year-olds without being able to speak in more than a mumble?

I know that so many people have things so worse off than me. And I know that this surgery isn't a big deal at all. Maybe it is because I am so dependent on words that I dread all of this so much.

And I can't tell you how many e-mails I've received (not to mention all of your great comments) wishing me luck. I'm sure you can't tell through all of my whining, but I appreciate your words so very much.

I will be quiet for a few days now. But I am sure I will be back with a vengeance. I'm going to need some outlet for all the words that rumble in my head and won't be able to find their way out of my mouth.

In the meantime, I've arranged for a guest blogger. Yay! I love guest bloggers. Especially when they're good friends.

Patrick has graciously agreed to inflict his brand of humor on my humble little blog. I'd try to lay some ground rules, but everyone just ignores me anyway. I'm sure Patrick will have one or two jokes to share about all the oral sex my husband won't be getting. And I can almost guarantee some mention of my rack.

Man. I may live to regret this.

So have fun together and play nice. I'm going to be taking a vacation with a little friend I like to call Lortab.

I love you guys!

Going it Alone

Today is Tuesday.

I think I'll rename today as Tuna Girl's Day of Crap.

With everything that is going on, I forgot that my husband would be TDY this week. He's gone until late Thursday night. My mother is flying in on Thursday afternoon. And my surgery is scheduled for Friday.

Every moment of my life is booked (and double booked) solid until this weekend. And not with fun stuff.

It's slowly dawning on me that I am more overwhelmed and anxious about things than I am willing to admit. Even to myself.

It feels good just to say that.

And I bet by the title you thought this would be a post about masturbation.

Speaking of which, I have a confession to make. If you link to me through your Site Meter I will snoop and see what your stats are like.

And some of y'all have some weird ass google searches.

Publish, Blogger, Publish

I wrote a brilliant post during my regular blogging time this afternoon. It was pure genius. I swear. It covered everything from poop to my new Febreeze Scent Stories.

Then I pressed Publish and...poof...it was gone. Lost forever in cyber space.

And I really just feel bad for you, my readers, who will be forever bereft of my pure genius. Really. I swear.

Okay. Maybe it was the most rambling piece of crap I've ever written and the blog gods did me a favor by eating it up. But we'll never know. Will we?

I just wish my slutty soccer mom post hadn't been the one languishing at the top of the blog for more than it's regulation day in the sun.

Today's Youth

Today, I saw a young man wearing a T-shirt that read:

I *heart* soccer moms!

Awww. We *heart* you right back, sweetie.

But take-off that shirt while you mow the lawn and we'd love you even more.

Days like this make it all worthwhile.

I'm having a great day today. And I had a great night of sleep last night.

I think I owe it to the amazing sex we had last night.

I'm talking stuff-something-in-your-mouth-so-you-don't-wake-the-kids kind of amazing sex. I'm talking can't-walk-very-well-today kind of amazing sex. I'm talking knocks-your-husband-out-of-commission-for-an-entire-day kind of sex.

Well, he did do all the work.

He and the kids are napping right now. I'm either going to go mess with my blogroll or watch some TiVo. Or maybe I can work at returning a bunch of the e-mails and phone calls I've received since yesterday.

Speaking of making my day great...

Thanks you guys. I really am fine. It's all normal in my world. I take everything day-to-day and moment-by-moment.

But I appreciate your thoughts more than you can ever know.

I love you guys.

Strong and Stalwart

It's time for the post that I should have written earlier.

I'm not myself lately, and I wonder if anyone can tell.

I'm not depressed exactly, but I'm not myself either. I think I've just been very stressed about a myriad of things going on in my life.

None of these things are really that important. Or if they are important, they aren't things that I have any control over. There just seems to be quite a lot of them.

But something happened today to bring it all to a head for me, and I'm starting to feel my stalwart exterior slip just ever so slightly.

My husband won an award at work. He was nominated to compete in the next level and won that too. That's a fairly big deal. So he was nominated to compete at the next level too.

Today CB was nice enough to watch my son so I could go to the award ceremony.

I walked into a hanger filled with a few hundred military members, mostly in BDUs, but some in flight suits too. The wall behind the stage was graced with the largest American flag I've ever seen. I was one of maybe a dozen civilians in attendance.

My life is so surreal sometimes.

I am very comfortable in these types of settings. I worked on bases long enough to know the score, and I'm the kind of person to assert myself just enough to make sure that I am there for my husband. I'm proud of him, with good reason. I'm proud to stand in a hanger like that and by my very presence say, "I support him."

I spotted RB in the crowd and he helped me spot my husband. He looked a little nervous, but mostly he was fine. He appreciated that I was there.

But moments after saying hello, he told me, "I got the TDY."

This time, by TDY he means deployment. A four month deployment. January to April.

He volunteered for this one because he'll get to do a job that is a little different for him, is good for his career, and has a definite end date. But this time, well, he'll be in the thick of things.

I replied, "Thanks for telling me right now." I don't think he picked a great time to tell me, but he was excited and proud and wanted me to know.

And it really doesn't make a difference anyway. I would have reacted the same way no matter where or when he told me.

And my reaction?

"Okay."

What reaction am I really supposed to have? I am strong and stalwart. I know that he will deploy from time to time. The timing is really the best it can be. And I'm proud and happy for him. He was chosen to do this. It's an honor.

So I sat through the ceremony. I laughed in the right places. I applauded in the right places. I didn't think.

I was disappointed when he didn't win. My baby should ALWAYS win.

He walked me to my car and I went back home to my napping son. I didn't think.

I blogged. Obviously, I didn't think.

I picked up my daughter and made the weekly mad dash to ballet. I didn't think.

I measured her for her costume and listened to the other mothers be insane. I didn't think.

I met my husband and we all went out to eat. With the whole family in the car, my husband and I did not talk about the deployment because we need to find the right way and time to tell the kids. I started thinking.

We went home and he put the kids to bed. I crashed. Unconscious. No thinking.

And I woke up a little while ago and felt the need to blog. And now I'm thinking. And for the first time since this deployment even became a possibility, I'm crying. But just a little.

No husband for four months? I can live with that. No sex? I can live with that too. More worry than I've ever felt for him on a deployment? I can even live with that. Dealing with the emotional reaction of two very loving and sensitive kids when Daddy goes away again?

Now I'm really crying.

Squeeze and Release

I can write one of two posts today.

I can either write a post that vacillates between morose and proud. A classic military wife post full of angst and subconsciously begging for sympathy.

Or I can write about a telephone conversation that I had that involves sex and way more information about me than you ever wanted to know.

Hmmm. What to write? What to write? Angst or sex? Domesticity or TMI?

Anyone, anyone?

Yeah. I'm thinking sex sells and I can be all morose tomorrow. I can also retaliate against Patrick for claiming to be the most reserved of our little blog group. GUFFAW.

So what happens when you get two people who will say absolutely anything and have no filters or boundaries on the phone? You get a straight women talking to a gay man about his gynecologist.

(This is highly paraphrased to spare you gentle readers.)

Patrick: The best doctor I ever went to was a gynecologist. He could obviously only treat so much but his bed-side manner was excellent.

Tuna Girl: Listen to this. After I had my son I went in for my eight-week check-up and my gynecologist told me that I was the tightest patient she'd ever seen. She wanted to know if I did Kegals.

Patrick: (laughing at me) I guess your husband is one lucky man.

Tuna Girl: You guess? Have you read my blog? He's not only lucky because of that.

Patrick: Very true.

Tee hee. Sorry Patrick, but it cracked me up. And I thank you for allowing me to use our phone conversation to distract me from that morose, angsty thing I don't feel like blogging about yet.

Renewal

Has anyone else noticed how many bloggers are talking about change right now?

I've never thought of November as a time for renewal and change. In fact, most people seem to coast through November and December in a fog of holiday gluttony and procrastination, just waiting for the excuse of the New Year to make resolutions.

I may be a little slow, but it finally hit me. A presidential election could certainly stir up feelings of renewal or desperate attempts to make things right.

I'm not immune. In fact, this November the Tuna Girl will have a whole new face. You can't get much more changed than that. And the Tuna Family just may be getting a new addition.

No not a baby. Though it would have been fun to leave you guys with that impression. We're on the search for a female Maltese puppy. I was undecided about getting a new pet for months. But now, I'm excited. I can't wait to find the right cutey-wootey-bundle-of-wuv and bring her home.

And I think I'm nesting. Because I started with the kitchen last night and I am purging the crap out of my house like nobody's business.

I'm so sick of my surroundings. I need renewal!

New haircut. New face. New pet. New decor.

Now all I need are some new friends.

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Speaking of new friends, one month from today I will be in New York City.

if I haven't yet tried to convince you to meet me there, it's only because I haven't gotten to you yet.

So go! Out-of-towners have one month to plan, and NYCers have one month to prepare. You may need every second of that time to prepare for the combination of him, him, and (especially) him.

The hits just keep on coming!

If you scare easily, you may not want to read my blog today.

Still here. Good. Because before I begin today's actual post, I want to thank a couple of people.

First, my husband. He puts up with a lot. (But don't be fooled. He dishes out a lot too.) But on this most sacred of days (and by that I mean the day of the month when I'm most likely to commit mayhem) he took it upon himself to try and make me feel better.

His sure-fire way to my heart is to do housework. He really did quite a lot. And I vacillated between thanking him and yelling at him for not doing things right. I really do appreciate all your work, Honey. But the next time you dump a clean pile of laundry on the floor next to my side of the bed, I may use that laundry to suffocate you as you sleep.

And Secondly, I'd like to thank my dear friend who called yesterday at the most opportune time. I was sitting in the waiting room at music class, doing my best to keep AH from seeing my hatred for her burning in my eyes, when my phone rang. Oh thank the good lord! Salvation. I stepped outside and escaped (and laughed) until I had to meet my daughter. Thank you dear friend. You may have saved someone's life.

As the mothers convened with the daughters in the music classroom, and while the teacher was explaining the next week's homework, AH decided to drop a bomb on me.

AH: I don't know if I told you at the party last week but *mumble mumble* pregnant.
Me: Who's pregnant?
AH: We are.
Me: *shocked silence*
AH: Yeah, and I'm really feeling awful this week, what with my two-year-old being so awful.
Me: Oh, well, congratulations. I guess it's taking a minute to sink in. How far are you?
AH: Almost eight weeks. We're due in June.
Me: That's a nice time of year. Summer babies are healthier too.
AH: Yeah. I wanted to have a summer baby so she could have pool parties for her birthdays. My oldest always wants to have a pool party (in January) so I figure this way she can just have her party for her baby sister. Isn't it awful to plan a baby around a birthday party?
Me: Har har. Uh huh.

Does this strike anyone else as terrible?

Add to that the fact that her husband didn't want any more kids. He even had a consult for a vasectomy.

Add to that the fact that her life revolves around her oldest daughter. This little girl is her mother's clone. And she makes all of the family's decisions. Like where to vacation, where to live, what house to buy, what color to paint a room, when to have parties, and (I strongly suspect) whether or not to have another baby. She's five.

AH even told me, "Well, my oldest really wants another baby, so we're thinking three might be good. Then we'll see if she wants anymore after that."

OH! And add to that the fact that her two-year-old is a real challenge to her (and so emotionally ignored). Now she'll be a middle child. I see a large therapy bill in her future.

Argh! This is the one thing my husband and I have been gossiping about since last night. My husband said, "Whatever. I think they made some bad choices but I don't have to deal with it."

And I replied, "But I do! Because she's insinuated herself into every aspect of my life!"

I hope they have a boy.

Okay, so I'm breaking the cardinal rule of blogging and talking about people you could care a less about. But let me tell you, the way I feel right now, it's blog it or scream it. And I know nobody wants me to strain my voice.

Oh hey! You know what's better than chocolate for PMS? Shopping. I bought a new table runner. You can stop feeling bad for me now.

Pissed off, Moody, and Sniffly

I don't think I've ever actually mentioned PMS in my blog before. You see, I write for my audience. I do. I admit it. Even when I'm blathering on and on, I'm considering how my blather contributes to my blog as a whole.

Pathetic. I know.

So when I have the urge to talk about my menses, I curb it. I do. I swear.

But I think you can go through my archives and notice some monthly angst.

Not that it has anything to do with PMS. Because the absolute worst thing you can ever say to a women with PMS is, "Are you PMSing?"

That just may get you killed.

Where the hell am I going with this? Damn it! Someone tell me where I was going with this. You bunch of ingrates.

I love you ingrates. *sniff sniff* What would I do without my blog friends? Blogging has meant so much to me. *sniff sniff*

And don't you hate it when damn Blogger is acting up? Fucking Blogger! I hate Blogger!

Blogger has been my tool to share myself with you. You who mean so much to me. *sniff sniff* I sort of love Blogger.

What? What's that you say? I seem a little moody?

Awww. It's sweet that you care about me. I'm tearing up here.

What was that? Come again. Do I have PMS?

Fucking yeah I do. So fuck off.

For five minutes. And then come right back. Because I need you guys. I love you. I swear.